I'm a Funeral Director, too
- Tony Vance
- Feb 21, 2015
- 2 min read

Recently, I had, both, the honor and burden of caring for the arrangements of a very dear lady...This post is what I said on FaceBook about it...
So, because of privacy rules and HIPPA, I will not be using names, but they will know whom I'm talking about. Because, you see, I'm a Funeral Director, and I'm a human.
I'm called on to take upon myself, one of the most sacred trusts that any person could be called to do. Caring for a loved one, of someone, is sacred, serious, and meant to be dealt with in the most professional of ways. I take this very serious, no matter the family, no matter the previous relationship, and no matter the circumstances that has brought me to their need.
Today, I was called once more to a sacred duty, to care for the remains of a saint, a friend, a special person. My professional duty requires that my emotions, my feelings, be held at bay, in order to do for the family what they need me to do, I tried.
I know full well the pain of loss. Some very special people in my life have left, many of them I have fulfilled my duty as a Funeral Director, laying my own needs aside to care for the needs of others, I did this again today.
You wonder what an undertaker feels? Does he grieve, mourn, sorrow at the loss of those he is called upon to care for? I did today. I hurt, I cried, I felt my heart lose a piece, shattered into pieces by losing a special person in my life.
This world knows so much pain, it rained upon me, today. Why? An answer, we will seek from God, here, but may not know till later. That doesn't mean I should have no animosity at the taking of a precious person, I DO!
So, I say, here and now, I'm devastated, I'm crushed, I feel the weight of the sorrow of loved ones, hurting tonight, left with empty seats, empty house shoes, and empty promises of things made with love.
Tomorrow, I'll start again, my pain, pulled in, left aside, to do my duty, my calling. But now, I'll just cry, my tears, my sorrow, my grief. An undertaker, bears his grief alone, or at least I try, forgive me if it shows thru, the next few days...RIP-SWEET ANGEL!